One of the most common questions I get as a doula is, “What does a typical night look like, and what can I expect as your client?” Every family’s needs are unique, but here’s an overview of what a night with me generally entails.
Typical Shift Length
Most of my shifts range from 8 to 10 hours. In my experience, the most ideal timeframes are 9 p.m. to 7 a.m., 9 p.m. to 6 a.m., or 10 p.m. to 7 a.m. This schedule ensures that I can provide the care you need while giving you an opportunity to rest and recharge.
Arriving at Your Home
When I arrive, I always follow the instructions you’ve provided beforehand. Some clients prefer that I ring the doorbell, others ask for a text message, and some are comfortable with me quietly letting myself in. This step is tailored entirely to your preferences, as I want you to feel at ease.
Once I’m inside, the first thing I always do is wash my hands. This simple step ensures I provide the highest level of care from the moment I step into your home.
Settling In
After washing up, I like to sit down with my clients for a quick (or not-so-quick) catch-up session. We’ll talk about everything baby-related—how the day has gone, how your little one is doing, and anything else that might be on your mind. For some families, this is a brief 5-10 minutes; for others, it’s an hour of chatting over tea. It all depends on what feels right for you.
Taking Over Baby Care
Once we’ve caught up, I’ll take over caring for your baby. Depending on the timing, I’ll often help with a feeding before settling in. If you’re breastfeeding, this might happen during our chat. If I’m bottle-feeding, I’ll handle that either during our conversation or right afterward.
After your baby is fed, changed, and settled, I’ll take them to the designated area where we’ll spend the night. At this point, I’ll do my best to rest whenever your baby allows. Some nights I get no sleep; on others, I may get 4-6 hours. It all depends on your baby’s sleep patterns and needs.
Middle-of-the-Night Feedings
For middle-of-the-night feedings, I adjust based on your feeding preferences. If you’re breastfeeding, I’ll bring the baby to you or assist you with breastfeeding if desired. If you’re pumping or using formula, I’ll handle all the feedings.
While you nurse, I can offer support, whether that means assisting with breastfeeding techniques, chatting to keep you company, or taking care of household tasks like laundry or dishes. Afterward, I’ll handle getting your baby back to sleep so you can return to bed.
Wrapping Up the Shift
As the end of the shift approaches, the hand-off process depends entirely on your preference. If your baby is still sleeping, I can quietly see myself out, leaving a monitor on for you. Some parents prefer that I bring the baby to them when they wake, while others ask me to stay in their rest area until they come to take over there.
Conclusion
Hiring a night doula isn’t just about getting more sleep—though that’s certainly a benefit! It’s about having a trusted partner to support you during those exhausting early months. Whether I’m feeding your baby, lending a hand with household tasks, or offering emotional support, my goal is to ensure you feel cared for and confident.
Every family is different, and every night is unique, but one thing remains constant: I’m here to meet you where you are and provide the support you need.

Kayden Lindeman PCD(DONA)
Intentional Beginnings LLC
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